Ego Diaries – Oversized or small?

What is Ego?

Ego is defined as an individual sense of self-importance. When an individual refuses to accept or engage in new ways for self-improvement. They are of the belief that they are operating on a level of perfection.

We all have egos and it shows up through our actions and how we interact with others. The common argument is that persons that portray oversized egos are considered as overly confident. I beg to differ; there is vast difference between Confidence vs Ego.

Confidence vs Ego

• A confident person seeks to owns things that brings them joy
• Oversized ego individuals own things to create an image or status
• Confident person is humble and greatful
• Oversize ego individuals are insecure and entitled
• Confident person knows their value
• Oversized ego individuals are unable to separate their feelings and opinions
• Confident person does not allow their opinions and feelings to define them
• Oversized ego individuals believe they are experts on every subject

Signs of an oversized ego

• Never satisfied
• hard to keep friends
• redirecting attention to themselves
• overly sensitive to failure
• insecure
• craving respect and recognition
• always defensive

We also must address that there are healthy and unhealthy ways one’s ego can surface;

Healthy

• individual demostrases vulnerability
• Individual is resilient
• individual is able to handle challenges
• individual takes accountability for their actions

Unhealthy

• Individual experiences fear which transforms into defensive behavior
• individual does things to harm self and others
• individual is arrogant
• Toxic thinking patterns

Ways to control ego

• practice forgiveness
• remain humble
• surrender the need for control
• practice gratitude
• do not take things personal
• accept your mistakes
• be open to learn new ways of communicating

In conclusion we all have egos, the challenge is whether it is big or small, healthy or unhealthy. The good thing is that we can unlearn certain behaviors and implement new mindset in order to control our egos. The science states that ego acts as a bridge between unconsciousness and consciousness, it craves safety and predictability. Egos magnifies our best and worst qualities. Do your best to develop an ego that is the true representation of you.

Thank you beloveds for all your support and love. I trust that the article will inspire, educate and encourage you on your personal development journey. I look forward to your experiences and feedback. Love and Light xoxo